It’s true! I’m not saying it just because I’m a couples therapist either. People who are married tend to be both mentally and physically healthier than their single counterparts. Now, I’m not saying that getting married is the cure to your chronic depression. But, waking up next to someone who appreciates you may not hurt it either.
Happily Married Men Live Longer
Happily married men live longer according to research. Some studies show happily married men live up to 10 years longer than their single counterparts. It also helps that many married couples, especially in our current economy, have a dual income household. This allows them to live in better housing, eat better, and take better care of themselves due to the additional financial resources.
Good news ladies! The research on the impact marriage versus single has on a women is not as conclusive as that of men’s. Some studies show that women experience no statistically significant difference in mental and physical wellness when married versus single. It turns out men may need women more than they need us after all. Maybe 90% of couples therapy initiation should be done by men rather than the other way around.
Myth vs. Reality
I believe there is a common there is a bit of a stretch when it come to the belief that married people are better off that their single counterparts. I’m not alone in this thinking wither. I think the operative word in these findings is “happily”. Happily married couples are healthier.
Some researchers believe the lower lifespan may come from the inconsistencies in a single person’s relationship status. In America, 96% of people are married at some point in their lifecycle. Therefore, many of these older singles that are studied have been through a divorce or are widowed. It may be that the lifecycle changes play a much larger role in a person’s wellbeing than previously thought.
Basically what I’m saying is that if you really want to live longer you should be in couples therapy. Ok, that might be a bit of a stretch. However, if a more satisfying and connected marriage is what you’re looking for couples therapy may be just what you need.